I was thinking yesterday that kids grow up in such a competitive world nowadays, it is scary. To be honest they probably don’t understand it just yet, if it wasn’t for us parents, who put so much pressure on them to be perfect without realising the consequences of it. We have all the best intentions, we want our kids to be happy and successful so we try to bring them up as complete as possible according to the modern standard of this competitive society. Since an early age, they have to learn to socialise, to swim, to play an instrument, sometimes to learn a language, to be cool, to be confident and competitive, independent and intelligent, sweet but strong, creative and studious. Even if we would never admit it, we want them to be perfect and perfectly ‘sellable’ in this big market that is today’s society.
Last Saturday I went with Giulio to his friend’s party and Giulio, as he sometimes does, spent the first 20 minutes playing by himself. I had at least 3 adults asking me what was wrong with him. I like to think of myself as a logical person but I started to ponder if Giulio might have a problem.
But is it not normal, when you go to a party where you don’t know anyone, to keep to yourself for a little while? Giulio wasn’t sad, or upset, or anyhow troubled or intimidated, he was just playing by himself. He wasn’t doing what we think a successful kid should do, as simple as that.
It wasn’t him with a problem, it was me and the other adults who had asked what was wrong with him.
We love them because they are spontaneous and at the same time we do everything we can to fit them into a structure.
Kids are not perfect and if we want to raise them happy, confident and able to deal with life’s sudden twist and turns, emotions, pain and competition, we need to learn to let them live at their own pace, without trying to increase their level of perfection all the time.
Maiko Nagao seems to have figured out what makes her happy, scribbling away and creating beautiful prints that she now sells through her online shop that delivers worldwide.
To get you into the right mood to discover Maiko Nagao‘s beautiful handwritten world, I have published some of the free printables she has kindly shared on her blog; also check out her shop for the pretty baby gift boxes, funky wall art or cards or for personal customized work contact her directly.